Today our nanny asked my husband and I to go out to eat lunch so she would have time to clean the house instead of cooking while my baby is asleep. My husband and I love to go a Chinese Hot Pot restaurant nearby that serves great Hot Pot with soft serve ice cream as dessert at the end of every meal. My husband’s favourite flavour is Peanut. One time he craved the peanut ice cream so much we went out to have Hot Pot but they didn’t have room for us in the restaurant.
While I was parking my car near the Hot Pot restaurant I jokingly said to my husband, “I wonder what is for dessert today, I kind of feel like a green tea ice cream…”
“Wouldn’t it be nice if they also have the peanut ice cream?” he said with a playful smile.
“Well, why don’t we intend for it? The intention is to have a great meal and finish with a green tea ice cream and a peanut ice cream!” I declared.
Off we went with our meal and while I was ordering, I asked the server, “what’s the ice cream flavour for today?”
“Oh, we have an excellent blend of green tea ice cream today. I really like this flavour.” the server said, “I’m not sure what is the other flavour but I will check later.” She took our order and went off to help other customers.
We had a great meal as I shared with my husband what I had done so far today. As we were finishing our meal I called the server over to ask about the other ice cream flavour.
“Oh, we also have peanut today!” She said as we watch the kitchen staff pour the peanut mix into the soft serve ice cream machine…
At dinner time my husband suddenly blurted out, “I really had a nice time with you at lunch today.”
“Oh really?” I said, “what was so nice about our lunch today?” I asked (I must be having many coaching sessions since I am asking these questions).
“Hmmmm, you got me there…” he ponders, “I think it was the peanut ice cream.” he response with a guilty smile.
Man, I almost believed that he had a lot of fun with ME!~
“Ok wait,” feeling like he should explain himself he said, “it was felt great to have received exactly what we had intended for.”
Well, since he put it that way, I couldn’t feel sorry for myself for not being the reason why he had a wonderful lunch. After all, this was a moment we shared together.
While I haven’t written down every single one of my intentions and how they have manifested. I can’t remember not getting what I want. I have asked for the seemingly impossible. I asked for $300,000 and got $500,000, I asked for a soulmate, met him in 3 months and married a year later. I wanted 2 kids…it all happened within 4 years of learning the magic of manifestation.
Recently I met a woman who asked me, “How come I don’t have what I want?” or “Why can’t I make any money?” I think a lot of people would ask this question to themselves often. Very rarely would people say to themselves “I always get what I want.” or “I always have tons of money.”
Unfortunately, as soon as you begin to have thoughts about why you do not have what you want, you have fall in to trap of feeling a sense of “lack” in your life. If you don’t have what you want, you must be “lacking” something. With the Law of Attraction, the Universe always gives you more of what you are feeling. So if you are feeling a sense of “lack” you won’t be able to achieve what you truly want.
Then that begs the question: “How do I get what I want?”
After experimenting and studying how I could get whatever I wanted, I began to realize that getting what you want actually requires you to take time aside to be mindful of your own thoughts. This is a form of “Self Mastery” that requires your constant attention. So what exactly do I mean by “Self Mastery”?
Self Mastery means that we are conscious of our thoughts and feelings. Sounds very easy but it is hard to do in the presence of our Ego. Our Ego is a part of us that operates from fear. When we are in Ego mode, we don’t feel good, we feel sad, anxious, and angry. We have negative thoughts about ourselves and people around us. We complain about our daily lives. This is what happens when Ego is running our lives. The Ego doesn’t always have to be negative and fear based, it may also be that little voice in your head that casts doubt on the good things in life. When a person achieves a level of Self Mastery, she will know when she is in Ego mode. Even when she is angry, she will know that this anger is not part of her true self, but from the Ego that does not speak from Love.
When you begin to have awareness of when you are in Ego mode, then you have reached the first level of self mastery. You can then acknowledge your Ego and remain conscious of it until it goes away. The Ego is very much like a flood, when it starts, you cannot just stop it, it has to run its course and recede on its own. But while the flood is going on, you can remain conscious that you are having a flood and it is causing chaos in your life and peacefully accept that there is not much you can do until the flood is done.
What you can do, is being as calm as you can in the middle of a flood. This is not easy to do. This is what happens to most people. The Ego Flood starts and they are cursing, they are angry at this flood. They think to themselves, “Why me? Damn you Universe!” Then they turn around and speak about this flood to friends and family, giving more energy to the on-going flood. What do you think happens when we give energy to something we don’t want? We get even more of it. Then the clouds roll in some more and you get a thunderstorm, making the flood even worse! For some people, they even get a hurricane!
It is hard in the mist of the chaos to sit back and watch the flood waters go by, acknowledging that there is little you can do until the water recedes. Many times, if you can just sit and be with what is actually happening without putting judgement on it, you will notice that life is more bearable and you find that you may even get a big settlement from the insurance company.
At the end of the day, it is important for us to be mindful of what we are thinking, feeling and saying. Every word and every thought makes a difference to you getting what you want.
Think of something you want that is fairly simple. By simple, I mean, if whatever you want happens to you, you will believe it has happened. I often start with a free cup of coffee, but you can start with something that is believable to you. Try not to choose something you are really vested with, such as something big like, manifesting a soulmate or manifesting a million dollars. This will come, but first, you need to learn how to flex your little manifestation muscles.
Then, think about what life would be like if you have gotten what you want. For example, I was having a persistent skin rash once and I start to imagine looking at myself in the mirror and seeing beautiful skin in the reflection of the mirror.
After you you have had a list or some ideas of what life would be like after you have manifested what you wanted, I want you to go do something you really enjoy doing. For example, if you love your cat / dog, go play with it. Immediately after you are done doing something you love doing, close your eyes and imagine what your life would be like if you have gotten what you want.
Do this exercise once a day or several times a day. Do not be discouraged if it doesn’t happen right away. If you become discouraged and say to yourself that this does not work, it really will not work. You must have absolute faith that it will work.
Do this exercise for 2 weeks. That means, doing something you love everyday, and then close your eyes and think of what life would be like if you have achieved what you want. Make a note in your calendar two weeks down the road and assess whether you have successfully manifested what you’ve wanted.
Remember, try to choose something that you are not too attached do and will not be disappointed with if it does not manifest.
Good luck with your exercise and write me a comment on how it worked out for you!
Recently I have been entertaining the idea of giving the universe some rather outrageous requests. I heard from somewhere that if my dreams are realistic, then my dreams are too small. Therefore, I have been toying with the idea of really dreaming BIG and focusing my attention on my dreams on a daily basis.
Previously on my blog post Manifesting Money I wrote about how I manifested $100,000 in annual income. This time around, I am going to set my income goal publicly here on Manifestation Stories so that I can give an income report by the tax season.
Before I state my income goal for the year of 2008, I want to talk a bit about the process of manifestation…
A few months ago I came across an excellent article by personal development guru Steve Pavlina titled How Intentions Manifest that details the sequence of how intentions become physical realities. Some of the interesting concepts Steve had presented were the presence of Alpha Reflections and Beta Reflections with any given intention. According to Steve, the alpha reflection usually appears 24 to 72 hours after an intention has been declared. The Alpha Reflection may come in the form of synchronicities or some other types of validation from the universe saying that it has acknowledged the intention. The Beta Reflection comes weeks, months, or even years later in the form of actual opportunities and/or inspiration about how to achieve the intended outcome.
Ever since I read this article, I have always wondered how these alpha and beta reflections present themselves because I really haven’t been paying a lot of attention to their presence. However, I got my first taste of an alpha reflection this week after declaring my income goal on paper.
Here is what happened:
Three days ago I declared that I intend to make $300,000 in the year 2008. Now to give you an idea of where I am at right now, my husband and I are hardly making any money because we have been busy developing our online accounting software called Clarity Accounting. It is a simple online accounting software for small businesses and individual consultants and my husband has been developing this piece of software on a part-time basis over the last 9 months.
The next day after I had put down my intention on paper, we went to a meeting with an advisor with IRAP — a Canadian government initiative to provide research funding for technology companies. The advisor we are working with has created and sold two IT start-ups and now he spends his time providing guidance for technology start-up companies. During our meeting I asked the advisor what he thought of our software and its potential and this was what he said, “I think you guys have a great idea and you are definitely on the right track. In fact, if I would say that your company is probably worth about $250,000 right now.”
I couldn’t believe my ears, did he say $250,000? We don’t even have any customers yet and we are already worth $250,000!! With an additional equity of $100,000 in our downtown apartment, we are now looking at $350,000 in net worth! If this does not fit the definition of an alpha reflection, I don’t know what else could explain how someone could tell me that I am already worth $300,000!! I now refer to the alpha reflection as a wink from universe telling me that my intention has been acknowledged and now I just have to keep focusing on my wonderful intention daily and start watching out for the Beta Reflections. When I experience it, I will no doubt write another big blog post about it and give it a cute title like er…I don’t know, I’ll find a nice title when I get there~~~
In fact, this incident has prompted me to give the universe a more specific intention:
Dear Universe, I intend to make $300,000 in revenue by December 30th, 2008.
This incident got me thinking about the idea that I already have everything I want and everything I could ever want is already in existence. It may be in a different form right now as energy can be transferred from one form to another. Just like ice, water, and steam are basically the same thing with different energy compositions. For example, the downtown penthouse I want to live in is already in existence and we are just waiting for the right time for a change of ownership!
Needless to say, I am excited and amazed at the wink I have been given from the universe, I can’t wait to see what kind of inspiration and opportunities will come my way in the next coming weeks / months!
Sometimes life is so good, I don’t even know how good it is until a contrast occurs…
I have been extremely productive over the last few weeks. I attribute that to the discipline of setting weekly intentions. The following is a sample of my weekly intentions that I got from attending a trial of the Procoach Success Systems by master certified coach Andrew Barber-Starkey:
If any of you would like this in an excel file, please do not hesitate to contact me.
The original weekly intentions consisted of only “what will I do” but I have also incorporated some of the things I have learned from reading the book, Ask and It is Given by Ester Hicks and included a section called “Requests for the Universe”. Filling out this form on a weekly basis has jump started my own productivity drastically in the last month or so. Interestingly, I have found that while I still have issues about setting realistic goals for myself under the “What I will do” section, the “Requests for the Universe” section has always been fulfilled for me.
I only realized how effective weekly planning has been for me when I started to slack off from my habit of setting weekly intentions towards achieving what I want to do. Approximately two weeks ago, I got lazy one weekend and decided not to fill out my weekly intentions form and went on with my life. The following week was still quite busy with many activities that had trickled over from the previous weeks, but by this week, I found myself to have nothing to do and feeling incredibly unmotivated to do anything. The truth is, there is still a lot to be done, but by the mere act of not intending to “do” the things needed to be done, nothing gets done. So far this week, I have gotten nothing done besides hanging out with my friends.
I am beginning to realize that most of the population probably go about their daily lives without any specific plans or intentions — leading to people to react to situations they come across. I hypothesize that many people actually live through their lives by reacting rather than intending. I guess if I never knew what it was like to live life with intention, I probably wouldn’t know what it truly feels like to go through my life without actively intending my desires. This is a concept called “contrast”. People experience contrast when they come across something, someone, and/or a situation they do not want. The simple awareness of recognizing what they do not want can point them into the right direction of what they want. The problem is that some people get fixated on what they do not want instead of thinking of the kind of experiences they would rather attract into their lives.
At the present moment, I am acutely aware that I don’t like having an unintentional existence. This is a contrast that is helping me to point myself back into the direction of seeking an intentional existence. My goal is to make up a weekly intention for the rest of the week starting tomorrow (it is almost time for bed) and jump start my life back in the direction of having an intentional existence.
It has been three months since I started my blog and the journey has been absolutely amazing. Although I have not had the chance to post consistently on a weekly basis, I am proud to say that I have met some friends — readers who found my blog and sent me comments and emails and shared their dreams and stories with me.
Last night I received a question from a reader asking:
“I set the intention to be in a stable home before summer. At present it seems impossible but I have witnessed many miracles in my life and I’m not going to put this one as impossible. My question is: If for some reason it doesn’t happen, could it be something that I did wrong?”
Here is my response:
I sincerely believe we are the creators of our own reality and that when we dream, we really want to dream big. I have heard people say that if your dream was able to be fulfilled by something you can do, your dream probably isn’t big enough.
I would like to offer some of my opinions to your question (the key word here is ‘opinions’).
It has recently come to my attention with the wonderful teachers I have attracted into my life regarding the importance of “receiving”. It is like the last frontier in the journey of manifesting our realities and I am going to a seminar next Saturday to learn about how I can fully receive my desires.
There are certain important elements to think of:
1. Do you truly believe your desires can manifest?
This is an important one because it is not something we can be consciously aware of. We are brought up with a lot of “limiting beliefs” of what is actually possible. These limiting beliefs are hidden in our subconscious and can remain hidden unless something is actively done to uncover and eliminate these limiting beliefs.
To give you an example of a limiting belief:
“I believe the man I am with is more important than I am and his needs comes before my own”
When I used to think this way, I would be the best girlfriend to my ex-boyfriends but none of them really respected me in the way I desire to be respected. Only after I discovered that I did not respect my own needs was I able to attract a man who truly respects my needs. This is an on-going struggle of mine.
In the case of your desire for your dream home, there are several questions you can consider asking yourself:
– do I really believe I can be living in my dream home?
– do I have some inherent fear at the back of my mind that I might not be able to manifest my dream home?
– what are some of the things I have heard other people say that may influence my faith in manifesting my dream home?
2. Do you think you are truly deserving of your dream home?
This is a very important idea to consider. As women, we are often brought up to put other peoples’ needs ahead of our own and we may go through our entire lives giving instead of receiving. Even when things are given to us, we may actually feel bad about it instead of feeling grateful. I have a difficult time with this one myself. It took me a long time to feel like I deserve something because on the subconscious level, I was afraid of wanting something and fearing that what I want might not come true simply because I didn’t believe I deserved something.
To answer your question about the cause of an intention not manifesting the way you want it to manifest, I also have some ‘opinions’ to offer:
As hard as this may seem, there is no right and wrong in the universe. Judgement is not the true essence of God. I personally believe in reincarnation and that the physical body is only a temporary shelter of our spirit. Whatever we choose to do becomes a lesson learned by our spirit. In the world of spirits, lessons learned are more important than what is right or wrong. Feeling guilty or fearing that you might do something wrong only creates a hidden level of resistance to aligning your desires with their physical manifestation.
One funny thing I realized is that I am not always given what I thought I have asked for. For example, In 2006, I had set an intention that I would like to make $100,000/year by the end of 2007. The end of 2007 came around and my tax form clearly spelled out that I had only earned $40,000. However, it came to my realization that I had gotten married that year and my combined income with my husband amount to approximately $100,000!! So, I didn’t actually make $100,000 by myself, but I now have $100,000 in combined income with my husband in the year 2007. The universe really have very funny ways of giving me what I wanted in the least expected ways.
Also, when I wasn’t given something that I thought I want, something better or more appropriate usually comes along some how. The universe seem to have some level of wisdom I do not have to figure out how things can be best manifested for me. Sometimes we will never find out why certain things are not manifested and sometimes we can only discover the universe’s true wisdom in hinsight.
In conclusion, you can NEVER do anything wrong. What you CAN do is to spend some time examining your limiting beliefs and fears (and it is not wrong to have them either, you are simply programmed with them as you were growing up). If something doesn’t happen to you exactly the way you want it, have faith that the best solutions will present itself to you. Having the faith that you deserve anything you desire is one thing you can do to put yourself in alignment with what you want.
Lastly, a bit of homework if you are up to it. Make a visioning board of your dream home, or a big list of what you want in your dream home. Take 5~15 minutes before you go to sleep and the moment you wake up to visualize what it might look like and visualize yourself ‘living’ in it 🙂 This is a difficult exercise, I must be honest that I have yet to reach the level of discipline to do such daily visualization exercises. I know if I did, all my intentions will manifest so quickly I probably wouldn’t know what to do with myself.
I really enjoyed writing to you. You give me so much inspiration to write. I have never thought of myself as much of a writer since English is my second language but man, you got me all fired up!!
At the beginning of March I made an intention that I wanted to attract $5000 into my life. I didn’t know how this was going to happen. My husband wasn’t doing a lot of work that gets him paid and when he does, his contracting company takes forever to pay him. While I am a nurse, I dislike working so much that I haven’t really gone in to work. In fact, I am seriously thinking about quitting nursing because I truly believe it is draining a lot of my energy from doing the things I really want to do.
Every week on Sunday, I sit down to plan my week on a excel form I called my “weekly intentions” where I state the things I will complete for the upcoming week towards accomplishing my goal and I also include a section where I write down all the things I request from the universe. I remember writing down on my weekly intentions that I really wanted to attract $5000 into my life. On the very same week, I found out I was pregnant and called my dad in Taiwan telling him he is having another grandchild on the way. He was so happy that he immediately wired $2500 into my bank account. The next day after that, my husband got a $2900 cheque in the mail. The total amount of money that arrived that week amounted to $5400!! I was ecstatic!
I thought I really should be taking setting intentions more seriously. I have been reading a book by Napoleon Hill called “Think and Grow Rich” and recognizing that one must truly believe that they are already rich before they can actually manifest that into physical reality. Due to my financial situation of not having enough positive cash-flow into the house, I spent a lot of time thinking about going in debt and having negative cash-flow. Then, I went to a real estate investment seminar a woman who became a real estate multi-millionaire within 2 years and taught many others to do the same. During that seminar, I had a sudden realization…
I AM RICH!
That’s right, I am really richer than I thought, I have a positive networth of $114,000 that I can draw from starting today to focus on a business my husband and I are building. I realize that our thoughts are funny things, while my financial situation has not changed at all, I am suddenly feeling so much richer than I was a few weeks ago. I know this will do wonders for my financial future because at this very moment, I feel so abundant, I cannot even believe I didn’t have enough money.
I have decided that I am going to shamelessly ask for what I want and get ready to receive manifested intentions joyfully. Here are some of my intentions:
I intend to:
be deeply in love with my husband Dobes
live in harmony with my husband and children
have beautiful, conscious children
attract $10,000,000 in positive networth by December 2011
live in a penthouse suite with 4 bedrooms and beautiful mountain views
be an inspirational speaker / author to inspire people to recognize their limited beliefs and create the lives they want
speak to children about the power of positive intentions and giving them the tools to transform themselves and the world.
create scholarship funds and make donations to allow children to participate in extracurricular activities such as music and sports (I personally was a recipient of these funds and the traveling I got to do really left lasting memories in my mind).
Recently, a person who read my blog shared with me that he would really like to manifest a BMW. Ever since he shared his dream with me, every time I see a BMW, I think of this guy who really wants to have a BMW. I am sure if enough people thought of him every time they see a BMW, he could manifest a BMW much sooner!
For those who are reading my blog, what are some of your intentions? Please take a moment to leave a comment and share your intentions to the universe so that we can send our positive energies your way.