This is not the first time such a question came up for me. While I have successfully manifested a great man for myself, I often get into discussions with women (and sometimes men!) who are attempting to attract great men into their lives. It amazes me how many people know about “The Secret” and are practicing very specific techniques to manifesting their dreams. However, there are some crucial elements of manifesting our intentions that are being largely ignored. Here is a funny manifestation flop I have encountered:
Recently during my personal development binge, I met a woman in her 50s named Michelle (not her real name) who has been largely alone for many years. Michelle told me she really wanted to manifest a man in her life. Like many people who have watched The Secret, she began to make a list of very specific qualities of the man she would like to have in her life. She really wanted someone who is: extremely friendly, always happy to see her, makes her laugh all the time, cuddly, and understanding. Sounds like a great list to me…
One day, she walked into the local SPCA (where stray animals await for adoption into a kind and loving home) in search of a female cat. Michelle thought a female cat was easier to handle and she saw a black and white coloured one she fell in love with right away. There was only one catch. The black and white female cat has a brother with a black coat that was very closed to her. The people at the SPCA were adamant that they would only offer two cats at once instead of separating the siblings. To Michelle’s great dismay, she took both cats home because she really loved the female cat.
In the weeks following the adoption of her cats, Michelle began to notice something interesting. The black male cat has a very warm personality of his own. He is extremely friendly and cuddly. He would wait by the door patiently for her to come home and follow her around the house joyfully and lovingly every day. He does things to make her laugh and loves to play with her whenever he can. When Michelle feels unwell, this little black cat would curl up beside her to keep her bed warm for her.
Michelle began to realized that the universe had given her everything she was looking for with one exception, he is not a MAN!
A Clear Intention is NOT Good Enough
There is a myth that what we think are our clear intentions is sufficient to manifesting what we want. However, it seems our spiritual, mental, emotional, and physical selves can be incredibly complex and confusing. There are so many elements to consider when attempting to manifest our dreams that even I am only beginning to uncover some of the intricacies of what is keeping me from manifesting my desires.
Here are some crucial elements I have identified as important when trying to manifest my dreams :
1. Believability: do I really think that my dreams are possible?
2. Limiting Beliefs: what are some of the beliefs I may have adopted in my past that no longer serve me?
3. Commitment: how committed am I to attain / attract my desires?
In the next few blog posts, I will discuss the implications of the hidden elements that prevent intentions from manifesting in real life. I will also provide some tips on how to improve your chances of manifesting what you REALLY want.
I bet this is a hot topic for many people. Who doesn’t know someone who is trying to lose weight?
I have been thinking about losing weight for the last 18 months. Ever since I met my husband, I have been steadily gaining weight and feeling self conscious about it. It really doesn’t help that I have a twin sister who is 20 lbs lighter than me despite having a kid merely 5 months ago.
Therefore, with my focus to lose weight, I have decided to increase my level of physical activity beginning with playing volleyball twice a week starting in January of this year. I played volleyball competitively twice a week and signed up to do yoga once a week.
I remember I lost about 4 lbs and then I started gaining weight again! That’s right, I couldn’t believe it, I was playing so much volleyball and working so hard. All I wanted to accomplish is to lose weight and be like my twin sister.
Then I watched the movie The Secret again and realized what I did wrong. Instead of manifesting weight loss, I manifested weight gain because all I was focusing on is “weight”. The subcsious really could not tell the difference between me wanting weight or not wanting weight, all it knows is “I want more of something to do with weight“.
By the time I realized this and took a good look at myself in the mirror, I was horrified to note that I had gain a few more pounds that actually made me look a bit pregnant. Seriously, I thought, “what kind of weight manifesting have I done?! Now my boobs are bigger and my tummy is starting to stick out.”
I became suspiscious about the growing boobs and did a pregnancy test even though I had just gone off the pill and it turned out to be POSITIVE! I am pregnant!!
The universe has a funny way of giving me things it thinks I am asking for. Since I have been thinking so much about my weight it actually gave me a way to manifest some serious weight gain (at least 35 to 45 lbs). Thank you Universe!
I am not sure if I should consider this a manifestation success or a manifestation flop. After all, I was focusing on my weight and the universe gave me everything I focused my attention to. Now I will have to accept my growing body and forget about losing weight all together.
Sigh, so much for losing weight!
Related blog post: Call Reluctance
Previously on Manifestation Stories I had written a post about Call Reluctance and chose to set an intention to overcome my fears of calling strangers. The following was my intention:
I intend to call all 8 women who were so kind to pass me their business cards to help me. I have a strong desire to reach them on the phone and have a 5 minute discussion with them regarding their book keeping practices. I intend to have a great experience calling these women and I feel great about myself.
The results were mixed, some of my intentions were manifested and some weren’t.
I went on to calling everyone I had intended to call. I was very proud of my self because I was plowing through the business cards and feeling great when I got someone on the other end. I chatted with them like I knew them for years and I felt great about myself.
However, I was only able to reach 3 women out of 8 and 2 of their secretaries. Out of the 3 women I got to speak to, one person was just starting her engine to start driving and asked me to call back next week, 2 people were not my ideal clients to speak to because they didn’t do their own book keeping.
So, perhaps I should re-examine my intention again. I had said:
1. Intend to call all 8 women who passed me their business cards to help me – manifested.
2. I have a strong desire to reach them on the phone and have a 5 minute discussion with them. Whoops. That didn’t happen.
3. I intend to have a great experience calling these women and I feel great about myself – manifested.
The issue here seemed to be Number 2, where I had a “strong desire” to reach them on the phone and have a 5 minute discussion with them. Perhaps a strong desire was NOT sufficient to warrant manifestation. I mean, what the hell is a strong desire anyways? Perhaps there was still some fear and reservation in my subconscious mind that I hesitated to make that an intention. I will definitely have to examine my deep rooted fears and beliefs before trying again next week. I wonder if I really believed (on a subconscious level) people would be available and ready to speak to me on a Friday afternoon…hmmm…
What is most important out of this manifestation exercise is that I felt great about myself. Perhaps feeling great is the first step in getting what I want and I just need to trust that the universe will line things up for me when it is appropriate 🙂