Free Latte

Yesterday I was writing my blog in a coffee shop.  After writing for awhile, I noticed my coffee was getting cold.  So I brought the coffee up to the Barista to see if he could heat up the coffee for me.  We started talking about different local coffee roasters when my coffee was being heated up.  He was so nice he thought he should just steam up some milk to warm my coffee.

I was happy about the service and went back to the table I was sitting at.  I noticed the coffee didn’t taste quite as strong anymore after more milk was added to my drink but I was happy anyways because of how wonderful this environment was. Then, a few minutes later, the same Barista I was speaking to came over and offered me a free latte!  The only catch?  It was made by mistake and had been sitting there for a few minutes.

From my point of view, nothing happens by accident.  Recently, I had been asking the Universe if I should omit coffee from my diet.  Clearly, I can still drink coffee without compromising my ability to conduct energy.  How wonderful!  Now I can write an inspirational story about getting a free latte!

Thank you Universe for the Free Latte!  I hope the Barista feels as abundant as I do.

Attracting Money

Everywhere I go I am coming across people writing about how to attract money.  This is not just from The Secret, this is people from other parts of the world who are exposed to different cultural norms.

Yesterday I went to the Chinese supermarket to do some grocery shopping and came across their book section.  I casually browse the romance section and making my way slowly to the self-help section.  This seem to be the section of the bookstore that always draws me in somehow.  I picked up a book written in Chinese with the title “Those who spend money makes money”.  Ironically I am translating this title from Chinese and the book was originally written in Japanese.  I wonder if something might have been lost in translation…

Regardless of what might have been lost in translation, the author seemed to believe that there is not point to save for retirement.  He asserts that those who spend money will make money.  The way to do it he said was to make dreams that you want to accomplish and the money will flow in.  Most of the books I have been reading lately have been focusing on the importance of making long term goals / dreams instead of focusing on how much money I want to make.

I think there is a level of synchronicity there.  Why would this information suddenly come to me from different directions?  I have no doubt been exposed to the teachings of The Secret but I am now noticing an explosion of people writing about how to “attract” money instead of how to “make” money.

Maybe the universe knows that I am at a point in my life where I would like to create a new level of transformation for myself and it is showing me the things I need to learn.  While nothing has been materialized, I find that I have been making weekly energetic shifts from the inner work I am doing.  I find my life to be quite exciting right now even though nothing is ‘happening’.  After all, the first steps to manifesting a physical reality that I want begins in the non-physical plane…

He who named himself with a shooting star

Beginning in July of this year, my husband Dobes and I had been doing some “relationship coaching” with relationship coach Alfred Depew.  We were coaching Alfred on getting his business accounting in order with our small business accounting software and in exchange, he offered us the opportunity to do some relationship coaching with him.

Personally, I found relationship coaching to be very…well, I can’t seem to come up with the right word…let’s just say — insightful.  While I have been told I am very “intuitive”, I always have this deep desire to know more about Dobes – what he is thinking, how he is feeling, what is important to him, what inspires him, what doesn’t…  This desire can also be problematic at times because he has mentioned on numerous occasions that he feels he has “no privacy”.  What can I say?  He did pick a wife that is highly intuitive with great deductive reasoning abilities.

Relationship coaching gave me new access to understanding Dobes in the way in which he understands himself.  What I have realized about humans in general is that we do not always understand ourselves; and therefore, we are often at lost with how we can communicate our thoughts and feelings.  During our relationship coaching sessions, we do fun little exercises that allow us to explore our visions and feelings separately and then sharing our thoughts and feelings with each other.

This process also made me realized how synchronized we are.  During one of the relationship coaching sessions, our coach Alfred asked us to pick a symbol that we could use to represent our relationship.  When this question was asked, I just had the thought of something “shinny” and “already knowing” and Dobes thought of a “shooting star”.  Based on our findings, we have decided that the symbol of our relationship is an already knowing shooting star.

On the same night we agreed on our relationship symbol, my mother had a dream which she shared with us the next day when we visited her.  She asked me, “have you thought out a name for your son?”  (I am pregnant).  “No” I said to my mother.  My mother said, “I have a Chinese name for him!” My mother said we should name him “Huai Yu” — which means “to be embraced by the universe”.  I was astonished that she could come up with this name.  I asked her, “Mom! How did you happen to come across this name?” And this is where things got really interesting…

My mother said, “Well, I was having a dream last night that a shooting star came straight towards my head and entered from one end of my head and out the other, leaving behind the name “Huai Yu” fixed in my head…so I got up and quickly wrote it down before going back to sleep so I wouldn’t forget…”

I swear, since I have gotten pregnant, my mother has gotten psychic or something.  We had just chosen a shooting star as our relationship symbol that very day and she has a dream that a shooting star entered her head with my baby’s name.  I sometimes wonder why I didn’t have such a cool dream like that.

Not even a month after naming my son, my mother said to me, “Oh! I have a name for your next child!”
“And how did YOU come up with that name?” I asked with intense curiosity.
“Her brother told me her name” My mother said.

Ok, let me get this straight, my unborn child is telling my mother his own name AND his “sister’s” name – a being that has not been “conceived” yet.  When I asked my mother what the girl’s name would be, she refused to tell me, saying I should at least get pregnant with a girl first.  I am not even done being pregnant with my first child and she is already telling me about my second child – correction, my son had already told my mother about his sister.  I said to my mother, “mom, your memory is not so good, maybe you should just tell me the girl’s name now so you won’t forget”. My mother responded by saying, “don’t worry, her brother will remind me.”

This is very strange coming out of a woman that considers herself a catholic and generally skeptical of psychics and past-lives…

For logistic reasons we have decided to give this unborn baby a Western name of “Dante” and a Chinese name of “Huai Yu”.

Hopefully he will come out soon, today is my due date and I am sort of sick of being pregnant…

A Wink From the Universe

Recently I have been entertaining the idea of giving the universe some rather outrageous requests.  I heard from somewhere that if my dreams are realistic, then my dreams are too small.  Therefore, I have been toying with the idea of really dreaming BIG and focusing my attention on my dreams on a daily basis.

Previously on my blog post Manifesting Money I wrote about how I manifested $100,000 in annual income.  This time around, I am going to set my income goal publicly here on Manifestation Stories so that I can give an income report by the tax season.

Before I state my income goal for the year of 2008, I want to talk a bit about the process of manifestation…

A few months ago I came across an excellent article by personal development guru Steve Pavlina titled How Intentions Manifest that details the sequence of how intentions become physical realities.  Some of the interesting concepts Steve had presented were the presence of Alpha Reflections and Beta Reflections with any given intention.  According to Steve, the alpha reflection usually appears 24 to 72 hours after an intention has been declared.  The Alpha Reflection may come in the form of synchronicities or some other types of validation from the universe saying that it has acknowledged the intention.  The Beta Reflection comes weeks, months, or even years later in the form of actual opportunities and/or inspiration about how to achieve the intended outcome.

Ever since I read this article, I have always wondered how these alpha and beta reflections present themselves because I really haven’t been paying a lot of attention to their presence.  However, I got my first taste of an alpha reflection this week after declaring my income goal on paper.

Here is what happened:

Three days ago I declared that I intend to make $300,000 in the year 2008.  Now to give you an idea of where I am at right now, my husband and I are hardly making any money because we have been busy developing our online accounting software called Clarity Accounting.  It is a simple online accounting software for small businesses and individual consultants and my husband has been developing this piece of software on a part-time basis over the last 9 months. 

The next day after I had put down my intention on paper, we went to a meeting with an advisor with IRAP — a Canadian government initiative to provide research funding for technology companies.  The advisor we are working with has created and sold two IT start-ups and now he spends his time providing guidance for technology start-up companies.  During our meeting I asked the advisor what he thought of our software and its potential and this was what he said, “I think you guys have a great idea and you are definitely on the right track.  In fact, if I would say that your company is probably worth about $250,000 right now.”

I couldn’t believe my ears, did he  say $250,000? We don’t even have any customers yet and we are already worth $250,000!! With an additional equity of $100,000 in our downtown apartment, we are now looking at $350,000 in net worth!  If this does not fit the definition of an alpha reflection, I don’t know what else could explain how someone could tell me that I am already worth $300,000!!  I now refer to the alpha reflection as a wink from universe telling me that my intention has been acknowledged and now I just have to keep focusing on my wonderful intention daily and start watching out for the Beta Reflections.  When I experience it, I will no doubt write another big blog post about it and give it a cute title like er…I don’t know, I’ll find a nice title when I get there~~~

In fact, this incident has prompted me to give the universe a more specific intention:
Dear Universe, I intend to make $300,000 in revenue by December 30th, 2008.

This incident got me thinking about the idea that I already have everything I want and everything I could ever want is already in existence.  It may be in a different form right now as energy can be transferred from one form to another.  Just like ice, water, and steam are basically the same thing with different energy compositions.  For example, the downtown penthouse I want to live in is already in existence and we are just waiting for the right time for a change of ownership!

Needless to say, I am excited and amazed at the wink I have been given from the universe, I can’t wait to see what kind of inspiration and opportunities will come my way in the next coming weeks / months!

Manifesting a Soul Mate

The Intention: May will meet her soul mate in 3 months.

The year 2006 marked an instrumental chapter of my life.  It was the year I discovered the concept of manifestation and it was also the year I put my first big manifestation project to the test — manifesting my soul mate.

The date was April 19th when I visited my good friend and nursing colleague Gillian to have tea at her house.  It was one day after attending a personal development seminar when I realized I wasn’t in the space of receiving love.  I had closed my heart to the possibility of having love in my life and this had subsequently caused me to close my eyes to seeing the opportunities that might have been presented to me.

I was sitting in Gillian’s apartment sipping my tea when I said to her, “Did you know that if you write down your goals or something that you want, it might come true?”
“No, I did haven’t really thought about that idea.” Gillian said apprehensively.
“I am thinking about doing an experiment to see if this actually works.  I think I should write down what I want and when I want it.” I said.
“Well, what is it that you want?” Gillian asked.
“I would like to meet my soul mate in 3 months.” I announced.

I opened my planner to the date April 19, 2006 and wrote, “May will meet her soul mate in 3 months”.  Then, I fast forwarded to July 19, 2006 and wrote in a green pen in my planner, “May is supposed to be dating her soul mate” and left it at that.

Nothing really happened right away and I went about my daily routine.  At the end of May 2006, I was chatting with my friend Luke when he revealed that he had signed up for an account on a popular dating website Lavalife.  I asked Luke what he had put in his profile and he told me that he wasn’t going to tell me.  So I thought to myself, “Fine! Don’t tell me! I guess I am going have to go on Lavalife and try to find Luke’s profile instead”.  I proceeded to set up an account that allowed me to search for people by region and tried to find my friend for 4 days.  During the 4 days I was on Lavalife, I received smiles from 50 different guys and I thought I was spending way to much time on lavalife without much progress of finding Luke’s profile.  After 4 days of intensively searching, I did not end up finding Luke’s profile, but someone else found me instead.  I was contacted by a guy with a nickname of “Nicetallguy” who sent me a paid message saying that he was really interested in my profile and thought we had some similarities.  I was really eager to leave Lavalife since I had given up my attempt to search for Luke’s profile and thought to myself “poor guy, spent money to send me this message and I am leaving the website”.  So I wrote Mr. Nicetallguy back and told him I was really sorry that I would be leaving the website.  He gave me his msn contact and said perhaps we can chat a bit more if I was up to it.  So I added him onto my msn list feeling bad that he had spent money to contact me for nothing.

Mr. Nicetallguy did not message me right away, nor did I message him since I wasn’t actively thinking about searching for a guy (I had completely forgotten my intention to meet my soul mate).  About a week after we had been on each other’s msn list, Mr. Nicetallguy made a move.  He said “Hi” to me and we began chatting away.  What we both noticed right away was the ease and flow of how we conversed online.  The discussions were meaningful, witty, and intelligent.  I revealed to Mr. Nicetallguy that I was taking a personal development course called Landmark Education and he was really surprised when I told him this over msn because he replied, “I took Landmark Education too!”

After a week of chatting online, Mr. Nicetallguy suggested that we might consider meeting in person and I agreed.  I had decided that if I was going to meet any guy from an online website, I must make sure I am in the position that I could run off at anytime if I didn’t like what I see.  So I suggested that he should come to the weekly seminar series I was doing at Landmark Education so that I wouldn’t have to worry about entertaining him.  To ensure we had a chance to chat, I also suggested that we meet for a short coffee 20-30 minutes before the seminar begans.

The day we were supposed to meet came around and I realized I couldn’t have been in a worse shape.  I had started playing my french horn in a community band after 7 years of not playing it and I had cut my lips so badly from playing my horn that my lips were so swollen I could barely speak properly.  I was also dressed in sweats that made me look 40 lbs heavier and wore glasses with no makeup.  In hinsight I recognized that I probably did this on purpose.  I have always thought that if I was to be in a relationship, I would like the man I am with to be attracted to my personality before considering my appearance.

I found him sitting outside the building where the seminar was taking place waiting for me.  We introduced ourselves and proceeded to a coffee shop nearby to get a coffee.  Mr. Nicetallguy had a very unique name “Dobes” and he was 6’7” tall.  I suppose that was why he had given himself the nickname Nicetallguy.  I first had to explain why I couldn’t speak properly.  He asked me why I couldn’t speak properly and I started to explain that I had started playing my instrument after a long time of playing it and had really overexerted myself. He asked, “What instrument do you play?”
With a mumbling voice I said, “I play the french horn.”
He said, “NO WAY!” in disbelief, “I played the french horn too!”
It turned out that he and I both played the french horn in high school, I played in the provincial honor orchestra while he played in the youth symphony.

After our initial meeting people asked me questions like “is he cute?” and “was it love at first sight?” and I must admit, I didn’t get to see his face much.  We got our drinks and decided to walk around the block and he was so tall (I’m 5’4”) I could barely get a good look at him.  I tried to look more, but I just got a sore neck from trying.  It wasn’t really love at first sight either, we didn’t have time to chat about meaningful things before the seminar began.

It turned out that it wasn’t quite the love at first sight for him either.  He went out to lunch with his friends the day after he met me and his friend Melina asked him “so, was she cute?”, and he ended up telling Melina that I was “just average”.  Since we had so much fun chatting online, we continued to talk both online and on the phone and our conversation began to take on a deeper and more meaningful tone.  Five days after our first meeting, I was going to work my nursing shift near where he lived and he came out to meet me for lunch.  According to him, this was when he fell for me because this time, I had a cute hair-do, I replaced the glasses with contact lenses, and I was wearing scrubs.  It must be something about men and their “nurse fantasies”.

By the time I got home at night, he was eagerly asking me when he could see me next.  Feeling alarmed, I put my foot on the break and said, “hey, you are not thinking about wanting to be in a relationship are you?  I just want to be friends!”.  He told me that he did want to consider a relationship that is more than just friendship but he respected my choices and was willing to stay friends.

This “friendship” stage didn’t last very long as we grew closer and closer.  I started to find Dobes more and more attractive as we got to sit down and look at each other more.  He had gorgeous green eyes, dirty blond hair, beautiful features and a kind and gentle soul.  He was always present and had a very thoughtful way of listening to what I had to say.  One of the most important factors that alerted me to the possibility of him being “a soul mate” was the shear number of synchronicities that would occur between us.

The first time I visited his small one bedroom apartment he gave me a little tour, and there were several things that caught my eye.  When he gave me a tour of his bedroom, I noticed that he had a little stereo at the foot of his bed and on top of the stereo was a stack of CDs.  At the very top of this CD stack was the album “The Most Relaxing Classical Music Ever” and that was the same CD that I was listening to in my car while driving to his apartment.  I also noticed the french horn he had placed at the far corner of his bedroom. His french horn had exactly the same case as my french horn and his french horn was exactly the same make, model, and colour as my french horn!  What a coincidence!  Over the course of our relationship, the coincidences that frequently occurs between us never cease to amaze me.

I began asking myself the question, could he be the one?  What if he isn’t? I was concerned that if he wasn’t the one, and I started dating him anyways, I might miss out on the chance of meeting my real soul mate (see how silly I was?).  I began asking the universe for guidance, I remember writing in my journal “Universe, show me some signs of whether Dobes is the one”.  Then I had 3 different dreams in 3 consecutive nights where I had dreamed of 3 different spiritual teachers I have met that came to me in my dreams telling me “he’s the one!!”.  By July 2, 2006, three weeks after we first met at Landmark Education, we professed our love to each other.  July 19th, 2006 came around and I found my own writing in my planner in a green pen stating “May is supposed to be dating her soul mate” and feeling overwhelmed with joy that my intention had came true!  Five months later on November 5, 2006, Dobes asked me to marry him; and one year after we professed our love for each other, we were married in a beautiful ceremony at a rose garden.  Many guests have told us that when we said our vows and kissed, a brisk wind whisked by and sent hundreds of rose pedals swirling in the air like a mini rose pedal tornado.  Maybe it was the universe sending us his blessings…

Now I know dreams really Do come true, and all I have to do, is ASK for it and write it down!

Walking Together

Wedding Album Cover

The Kiss