Recently during a Spiritual Regression session, I asked my client’s Higher Self (HS) if I could ask a few questions pertaining to the success of self-healing. The following was a short discussion on this subject:

May: May has the question, why some people heal and some people don’t?

HS: Unfortunately, not everyone is feeling like they have the right to have, or experience imagination…to imagine…and this has been the great fall of man. Yes there is the idea of feeling worthy, as [client] knows, she tricks herself into healing by saying, “Even though I don’t feel worthy sometimes, or even most of the times, I still claim my right to heal. This helps her and she uses it a lot because it allows even her ego to just consider, “Oh! Ok, even though I don’t feel worthy, I am still worthy.” And it can be very healing and cathartic because it allows the whole body to integrate the experience of being worthy and healing even when there are these parts of oneself that still feels not worthy. But the people that have chosen to not only decide that they are not worthy but to decide that that there is no chance of it, or that there is no room for it, to extent that they won’t even say it out loud “I am worthy!” or even, “I am worthy even though I don’t feel it right now.” That’s when things humans consider to be miraculous — which is really the natural state, that’s when it gets thwarted is when this armor comes up, “No, it can’t be, I shall not be able to heal because that is the way it is.” They don’t allow the door to open by saying, ”Even though I feel unworthy most of the time, I know I am worthy.” That allows the room to heal. Actually, the whole house is lit up when the acknowledgment of both worlds, what we call the Light and the Dark. There is room for both, and when we make room for both, the whole house is lit up with love.

M: There is one person that May is working with that has lower back pain, but after the session, she almost didn’t want to acknowledge the success of the session and told her that she felt worse. What is the best way for May to help and approach this situation?

HS: Realizing that you can put the responsibility back on this person, not in a heavy way but in a empowering way, they need to own their own power and they are resisting it. And so you can ask, “How is it serving you to have an experience of it as being worse?” Of course saying it in a place where it is soft, where the energy is loving between you and you feel like her resistance is soft. She will be able to come to the answer with no judgement. If she is still in a place of needing to defend, which is the ego state, when the human mind gets to this state, it is busy defending its limitations. When humans are busy defending their limitations, that’s what they know, so again the doors are closed. This door can easily be opened if you decide on simple things like, “I choose it is safe for me to be wrong sometimes, I don’t have to be right all the time.” So meaning that if I have a belief structure that says, “I cannot receive healing, I will not be healed”. It is good for us to accept that we can be wrong because it opens the door to where it is right.

Client Session

I was able to have a session with the client with persistent back pain a day after receiving this guidance from the Higher Self.  The client was very chatty and I took the moment to lightly point ask that since this back pain had given her so much grief, has it gotten her anything that was good?

She thought for a quick moment and said that having the chronic back pain allowed her son to be more attentive to her. When she was feeling unwell, he would come and mop her floor and do some housework for her. This was the way for her to feel her son’s loving consideration especially after he got a girlfriend.

During the session the client explored incidences in her present life in which she felt very unloved as a child. She went to scenes in which her mother didn’t leave any food out for her when she was hungry, or that her mother didn’t give her any attention when she came home with blood and bruises all over her face from falling off the swing. Just took a look at her and told her that she deserved all the injuries for being not careful enough. She felt so insignificant as a teen that she had considered simply killing herself because she felt that no one cared if she existed or not.

Having debilitating pain became a way for her to get away with being moody with her family, needing a lot of ‘help and assistance’ with housework to maintain her high standard of cleanliness. She used her health issues as a way to control her son, to make him live in the same house as her because ‘she needed a lot of help’. Her son had previously moved out with his girlfriend but she bought a house that was beyond her means and made her son sign for a mortgage. Her son asked her why she couldn’t be happier and she told him that she is happy when she could ‘be close to him’.

So, when her son benefited from a Spiritual Regression session and wanted her to have a session, she agreed to have a session to appease her son but subconsciously rejected healing because that will give her less control over her son and that he would move away and leave her all alone to take care of a big house (which she bought without consulting her son) all by herself. Now thinking back, I think she even use her health issue to control me because I would feel bad for her and come back for a free session at no charge so she can get more tender loving care from me!

When we connected to the Light, they suggested that the best thing to do is for the client to begin loving herself. They assured that she is loved and healing is available for her. She got from her inner wisdom that it was more important to be kind to herself rather than waiting for someone to be kind to her. They reassured that she is deeply loved by giving her a sensation of warmth all over the body.

At the end of the day, a person’s level of self love and self worth is the most important indicator of healing. There are plenty of healing methods out there, but self love is the most important healer of all.

A few days later I got an update from her son saying that she had seemed lighter after having a session with me and he even overheard her humming to herself — something he said she had not done for a long time.

So, even if she claimed that she was not able to attain self-healing, her son observed a difference in the way she was being. 🙂